June 23, 2019
This week the Non Moms are kicking it old school. No badass women being celebrated... outside of the hosts, that is.
Kelly has some pretty big news and health updates; she finally fired her terrible doctor! Listen up to hear about why it's so important that Spoonies be tireless advocates for themselves. Or, maybe lean on others to help advocate for them.
Then, Debbie Jo checks in and talks about what it's like to discover suddenly in your mid-twenties that you have legitimate attention deficit issues. Ok, so you finally know... now, how do you deal with it, without being mean to yourself?
It had been a while since we just talked to our listeners about life, stress, mental health awareness, and self-care, and we decided it was past due. We hope you enjoy the episode (especially our long-time listeners) and that whoever needs the messages receives them. (Skippers will hate this episode. MUAHAHAHA...)
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June 16, 2019
The Non Moms were so excited to be back in the studio this week, after several weeks away!
Good news and bad news:
Bad news, the audio for our live show at PodX was lost.
Good news: This is a banging ass episode, anyway!
This week Kelly kicks it off by telling Debbie Jo all about Mary Church Terrell, who was actually the badass she covered at the live show. She was so badass that Kelly simply couldn't let her be lost to the evil techno-Gods working against her. Mary was a hell of an activist and was a charter member of the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People as well as being the founder and president of the National Association of Colored Women.
In honor of Pride Month and at the suggestion of two listeners, Debbie Jo told Kelly all about Anne Lister! HOLY. MOLY. Her story kept Kelly on the edge of her seat the entire time, it was amazing. Anne Lister was a lesbian... in the 1800s, y'all! And thanks to the immaculate recording of her life's story in 26 volumes of her personal diaries, a writer in the 1980s was able to establish that - spoiler alert - being a lesbian (or any other member of the LGBTQ+ community) has always been a thing and is totally natural and beautiful, and that love is love. Period.
Happy Pride Month, y'all! Thanks for hanging with us!
June 9, 2019
Surprise! It's an interview episode! It's been a while since the Non Moms have had anyone on to interview, but they met Kate Van Sprange at PodX and just knew they had to have her on. The ladies recorded this episode in the Netflix Recording Studio at PodX in Nashville, Tennessee on June 1.
We talked social worker/nonprofit burnout, self-care, and reinventing oneself as many times as necessary to find peace and happiness in oneself while pursuing a career and lifestyle that is fulfilling and honors oneself. We even talked about Spoonie life a bit, as Kate's husband Mel is a badass Cystic Fibrosis warrior! (Check out the badass organization Rock CF!)
For all of our listeners and pals who are vocalists, lecturers, people who have to talk too much for any reason and are always dealing with throat irritation and loss of voice, you definitely need to check Kate's product, Vocal Eze, out! We are especially big fans of the lozenges.
You can find them on Amazon and at Sam Ash, Guitar Center, and more!
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May 27, 2019
This is our last episode of May, our last episode before PodX, and the last episode of Mental Health Awareness Month! Where is the time going?!
This week Kelly kicks things off by exploring the history of women's mental health treatment. Spoiler alert: It's been rough. The Ancient Greeks had some seriously crazy ideas about what a woman's uterus was doing in her body and how it was impacting her mood and behavior. Then there was Victorian England where it was decided that all we needed was orgasms to keep us happy, and that, of course, male doctors must be the ones to deliver them. *Eye Roll*
Debbie Jo goes on to tell us about the first American traditional tattoo artist, Maude Wagner. Maude was only ever tattooed by her husband, who taught her the art of tattooing, and they passed the tradition on to their only daughter. The Wagners traveled for years with the circus as a freakshow act, both for being heavily tattooed and for performing the art of tattooing in front of audiences.
Special thanks to artist Meredith Elmore (Instagram @meredithelmorepaints) for allowing us to share one of her pieces of art in recognition of Mental Health Awareness Month. Find her (and this print!) on Etsy at https://www.etsy.com/shop/meredithelmore. Enter promo code "Nonmomhappyhour" for free shipping!
Take care of yourselves and each other, folks. You matter to us!
May 19, 2019
The Non Moms were in rare form this week, Y'All! Skippers, if you've made it this far, you can get your skip-button fingers ready, and tune in at around the 20-minute mark.
Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo about Frances Perkins who we will heretofore consider the Godmother of the Labor Movement. Without Frances, the New Deal might not ever have happened, or at least not as we know it. You can thank her for 40-hour work-weeks and the abolition of child labor. You can thank yourselves for the destruction of many of the benefits once afforded by the labor unions, like 40-hour work-weeks and overtime pay. Well done, America!
Continuing the coverage of Mental Health Awareness Month, Debbie Jo follows up Frances with the story of Alison Malmon, Founder and Executive Director of the nonprofit organization Active Minds. Alison was inspired by the death of her brother, who committed suicide, to change the mental health narrative on college campuses across the United States. Suicide is the leading cause of death for college students and 1,100 college students each year commit suicide. Active Minds helps empower students to help one another and prevent such deaths.
Finally, this all leads to a conversation about herpes and the stigma attached to the herpes virus. Debbie Jo shares her personal life experience, surprising even herself.
Please, if you are considering suicide, reach out for help, you can call the Suicide Prevent Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
May 12, 2019
NOTE: May is Mental Health Awareness Month:
According to Women’s Health.Gov:
Good mental health is essential to overall well-being. More than 1 in 5 women in the United States experienced a mental health condition in the past year, such as depression or anxiety.1 Many mental health conditions, such as depression and bipolar disorder, affect more women than men or affect women in different ways from men.2,3 Most serious mental health conditions cannot be cured. But they can be treated, so you can get better and live well.4
On to the show!
Debbie Jo throws everyone a curveball this week and covers not one woman, not two women... but an entire town outside of Atlanta, Georgia which is being predominantly governed by badass African American women. The town is South Fulton, Georgia, which hasn't even officially been a town for but a couple of years. The women aren't hired just because they're women; these are well educated, credentialed, and experienced women who all happen to have been voted into or hired into offices of the local government. They are doing some breakthrough things in the court system of South Fulton, too, so you'll definitely want to hear about this place and keep your eye on it for future outcomes.
Kelly follows the town of South Fulton with everything you might think you already know about none other than Lady Gaga AKA Mother Monster. Kelly didn't fall in love with Lady Gaga in the same timeframe or for the same reason that most people have -- her music. Kelly discovered Lady Gaga as a person, as well as her persona when Kelly watched her Netflix Original documentary, Gaga: Five Foot Two. Kelly talks about all that Lady Gaga has survived and overcome (especially in regard to mental and physical health and wellness) to get where she is today in her career and her life. Spoiler alert: There is no magic button or pill to make your dreams come true, Y'All. Ya gotta work for it. She certainly does.
Boop merch is officially available at our Teespring store:
May 5, 2019
Yep, now we're just doing it to make Debbie Jo crazy.
Kelly kicks things off this week by telling Debbie Jo about Emilie Schindler, wife of the more commonly known, Oscar Schindler of Schindler's List fame. Emilie wasn't simply a supportive spouse who stood by and watched her husband save the lives of some 1,300 Jews during WWII and the Holocaust. She was an active participant and advocate herself; her role as an activist, ally, and nurse has often been overshadowed by the legacy of her husband who, as it turns out, bailed on Emilie - straight abandoned her, their marriage, and their life in Argentina - after the war.
Feiwell (later went by Francisco) No. 371 on Schindler’s list was quoted at age 75 as saying, “As long as I live, I will always have a sincere and eternal gratitude for dear Emilie. I think she triumphed over danger because of her courage, intelligence, and determination to do the right and humane thing. She had immense energy and she was like a mother.” (Quote taken from http://www.auschwitz.dk/Emilie/Emilie.htm.)
After some discussion about cognitive dissonance and how we as humans allow atrocities such as the Holocaust to happen Debbie Jo lightens the mood with the story of Annie Edson Taylor. "Who the heck is Annie Edson Taylor?" you may be asking yourself. She's the first (person and) woman to ever successfully ride over the Falls of Niagra in a barrel.
A pickle barrel, to be exact.
A custom pickle barrel.
With an anvil in it.
Seriously... Just listen.
p.s. Kelly is working to have new "Boop" and "Boop That Sh*t!" merch in the store by Tuesday. So, keep an eye out for that at: https://teespring.com/stores/a-non-mom-happy-hour.
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April 28, 2019
This week actually kicks off with Athena, the diva pit-mix, howling at the Boop. The Non Moms are so, super excited because for the first time ever we are using SquadCast.fm to record and we can see each other's faces in real time while we record and Debbie Jo can make faces at Kelly to make her laugh in inappropriate places.
Debbie Jo officially kicks things off this week by telling Kelly about Julia Baker, The Snake Boss (or Snake Sheila, as she's referred to in Australia.) Julia accidentally fell in love with snakes when she moved to Australia as a young adult and has since become a one-woman, snack-catching, snake-and-nature-conservation crew and founded her own business doing it. She took it a step further and manifested her dream of someday being an actress and actually created her own damn reality show series that ended up on Animal Planet. That wasn't enough though, because then she manifested exactly the type of man she wanted to meet and fall in love with, and in walks Johnny Bagpipes. It's a super cute love story.
Next, Kelly tells Debbie Jo all about the amazingly talented author, dancer, and socialite, Zelda Fitzgerald. She happens to have been married to F. Scott Fitzgerald, author of American literary classics such as The Great Gatsby who consistently stole his wife's prose and short-stories, even chunks of a novel, and published them as his own! What a dick! He even admitted in his own writing that he purposely did what he could to drive her mad. Be ready to get heated, Y'All. The Non Moms essentially come to the conclusion that F. Scott Fitzgerald never would have been so famous and successful an author without his uber-talented wife carrying his ass.
Quick note - It's #IndieApril! This is a month to celebrate independent authors, like our very own Mechanerdzilla. If you'd like to learn more about Kelly's book, you can visit her website at nerdzillakelly.com/book.
Thanks for being with us this week and every week! We hope you enjoyed a better-sounding, clearer, more real-life, and authentic-sounding podcast episode. We had a lot of fun recording in the new format and are excited to have future guests in the new virtual studio. Be a real ass human Y'All!
Julia Baker Image Credit:
April 22, 2019
Sorry, we're late! Spoonie life, man! Shoutout to our producer for literally helping Kelly walk all weekend.
Happy birthday, again, Josh!
Kelly's niece Aubrey is the coolest.
We'll be at PodX performing LIVE on June 2, at 12:40. Go to www.podx.com/happy to buy tickets and save 10%.
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Now for the fun stuff!
Kelly kicks things off by telling Debbie Jo about her grandfather, his experience with Polio, Dr. Anita Silvers, her experience with Polio, and Dr. Silvers's work as a Philosopher of Aesthetics and an Advocate concerning the American's with Disabilities Act. Dr. Silvers contracted Polio at Girl Scout Camp in 1949 and subsequently spent an entire year in an Iron Lung. The disease left her a partial paraplegic but that didn't stop her from being a total badass and getting her college degree, a P.h.D. in Philosophy, and eventually teaching at San Francisco University for 50 years. It was during her time as a professor, when two blind students came to her for help, that she shifted her focus to studying the Americans with Disabilities Act from a philosophical standpoint, advocating for the recognition of the Act as being a matter of Civil Rights and the equitable treatment of individuals with medical disabilities, especially in the workplace.
Then, Debbie Jo channels her inner Bessie Stringfield and goes on a bit of a rant at Kelly about not apologizing for taking up too much time or space in the world... or the podcast. Bessie Stringfield is best known as the first African American woman to ride a motorcycle across the United States, solo! When she was 19! And it was only 1930! It's almost impossible to truly wrap one's mind around that level of badassery. Bessie originally road an Indian motorcycle, but at the end of her life, she owned a collection of 27 Harley Davidson motorcycles. Bessie was also a Civilian Courier for the US Army during WWII and founded the Iron Horse Motorcycle Club and was eventually known as the Motorcycle Queen of Miami.
April 14, 2019
We're back! And so are our voices! (Mostly.)
We have news! So, first things first:
You guys. We have our first corporate partnership!! THAT'S RIGHT! We are now partnering with Thrive Market to bring YOU 25% off your first order and a FREE 30-Day membership trial (which means you get premium pricing.) Get. On. This. Deal. Kelly saves hundreds of dollars a month specialty groceries because you know this heifer has all the special needs between her food allergies and the anti-inflammatory diet. Kelly also sent Debbie Jo (resident woo-woo skeptic) some CBD supplements from Thrive and lo-and-behold, they help! Go to www.thrivemarket.com/anonmomhappyhour to automatically enjoy the savings!
This week, Debbie Jo tells Kelly all about Alice Roosevelt Longworth, daughter of former President, Theodore "Teddy" Roosevelt. Kelly's personal favorite quote from Alice is one that was stitched on a pillow that sat on her settee (sofa): "If you can't say something good about someone, sit right here by me." That's our kind of woman! Seriously, Alice was a rabble-rouser and once again Debbie Jo is convinced that she's accidentally stumbled upon one of Kelly's past lives. It's crazy that we never hear about Alice but here about her father and uncle all the time because, as far as we are concerned, she was the most fun out of the whole lot.
Kelly then tells Debbie Jo about Kathrine Switzer. Kathrine didn't set out to be an activist but it happened anyway, in a flash, when she became the first woman to officially register, run, and finish the Boston Maraton. This happened in 1967 and as you'll hear, race official Jock Semple was not happy about her participation. So much so that he attacked her, physically, and attempted to tear her running number bib from her shirt. Well, Kathrine's boyfriend, "Big Joe" tackled the guy and Kathrine's trainer Arnie yelled after her, "Run like Hell!" She did, and she finished the race. Then she went on to fight for having women's marathon running included in the Olympic Games, along with a number of other accomplishments.
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